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Family

August 7, 2018 by Bryan T. Clark 10 Comments

Are we really past the half way point in 2018? Where the heck did that first part of the year go?

Last month I turned thirty; okay fifty…-three-ish! For the first time in many years, I spent my birthday with my family. My husband Brian barbequed and mom made my favorite cake, a homemade German Chocolate cake. She still makes her cakes from scratch. It was a relaxing day with the six of us hanging out in the pool and just talking.

The day was not all that different, (except for the pool) than when I was a kid. Coming from a large family, our weekends often turned into a party. The men took to the backyard to tend to the grill and drink beer while the women chatted and laughed in the kitchen as they prepared side dishes and desserts.

When I got bored with the stories the guys were telling over and over again, I would wander into the kitchen and spent a little time with the ladies. Their conversation was always better; no drama, just sharing the best gossip reserved for Sunday BBQ’s.

As a family, we all came together weekly to enjoy each other’s company. It was a tradition that I’m not so sure continues in people’s lives today. We are a nation of drifters and transients, moving our families where ever the jobs take us.

Today, my birth family is transcontinental; we are spread out from California to North Carolina, and everywhere in between. It is rare when we are all in the same room these days. Even with modern technology such as Facebook, Face Time, and any number of other apps that connect us, I often wonder are we truly, really connected anymore?
It seems that ‘family’ today is more by design then by birth. Children have aunts and uncles that are not blood related but love them every bit as hard. We gather just the same, in the parks, and back yards, friends welcoming friends.

In my novel Diego’s Secret, a romantic and heartfelt story, I explore the meaning of a modern family—blended by circumstances, not by choice—and how those complicated bonds add an unexpected richness to our lives. I have included a short excerpt from Diego’s Secret that relates to this issue. After reading the short excerpt, I would love to hear back from you in the comments section where you can tell me what your family looks like today.

DIEGO’S SECRET
Just past midnight, Diego was still awake. He lay across his bed staring at his phone, scrolling through pictures of his cousins in Mexico sent by his aunt. Though he had left Mexico at age seventeen, there wasn’t a day that Diego didn’t think of his small village of Mezcala in the state of Guerrero. Sure, life was better here, but that place held his family, his friends, and childhood memories of playing in the Atoyac River.

He smiled as he remembered fishing from the bridge of that river with his abuelo, just the two of them. It killed him that he hadn’t been able to see him one more time before he died. Knowing that the entire family had attended the funeral except for him and his brothers, he felt that he had never gotten closure. Maybe that was why he often thought of his abuelo as still alive. Diego would sometimes wonder what he was up to until the realization returned that he was gone.

The memory of his mother’s menudo, cooking on the stove all day, suddenly penetrated his nose, sending a calmness down his spine. Diego listened for sounds from the front room. The muffled noise of guns firing on television told him that Francisco was still up, watching one of his favorite cop shows. Mayra was most likely draped across his lap in a light sleep. Trying to shrug off his loneliness, Diego rolled over in hopes of going to sleep.

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  1. Blake Searcy says

    August 7, 2018 at 12:11 pm

    I’m a fan. Finished Diego on vacation. Can’t wait for the next.

    Reply
    • Bryan T. Clark says

      August 8, 2018 at 6:04 pm

      Hi Blake, so glad you enjoyed Diego’s Secret. Nothing like a good book and a vacation
      oxoxox

      Reply
  2. Kris says

    August 7, 2018 at 12:36 pm

    Hi Brian,
    LOVE hearing about your family’s get-togethers, and a very HAPPY B-Day. That’s a great excerpt from Diego’s Secret. LOVE your writing.
    Hope to see you soon at meeting?

    Reply
    • Bryan T. Clark says

      August 8, 2018 at 6:06 pm

      Hi Kris,
      Thank you for the comment. I miss you two. We will be in Lake Tahoe during the next meeting. Sorry to miss it. I know you were scheduled to talk.

      Reply
  3. C.J. Baty says

    August 7, 2018 at 7:20 pm

    I think more than ever today our family is the people we chose. At my age, I’ve seen a lot of my family pass on, even cousins younger than myself. Nearly all the aunts and uncles are gone. My dad is the only one left now from his side of the family. I’m firm believer in the fact that God puts people in our lives for a season for a reason. They give us that ‘family’ we all need.

    Lovely post today Bryan. Thank you so much for sharing your family with us.

    Reply
    • Bryan T. Clark says

      August 8, 2018 at 6:09 pm

      I too am a firm believer that some people are only meant to be in our lives for a season and a reason. The more I get to know you, the more I love you!

      Reply
  4. Rene David Cordova Kaun says

    August 16, 2018 at 11:48 am

    Hello my favorite romance author.
    Today, my family looks very different. I never thought I would learn to love my chosen family so deeply as much as I do today. My chosen family , forty plus and growing, is a beautiful mixture of ages 28-70, straight , gay, different ethnics, and religions .
    We are The Tribe.
    We love each other dearly, vacation together , have social gatherings and support and cry when we need to.
    Everyone is always welcome .
    This is what my family looks like today.
    Love them all.

    Reply
    • Bryan T. Clark says

      August 16, 2018 at 2:36 pm

      Hi Rene, I have had the great pleasure to meet your chosen family/Tribe. Experiences them first hand, I have to agree with you that they are a beautiful mixture of the rainbow. You’ve done well my friend.
      xoxoxox

      Reply
  5. Perry says

    August 17, 2018 at 4:29 pm

    The weekend get togethers sound familiar. Good food and good times. I miss them.

    Reply
    • Bryan T. Clark says

      August 20, 2018 at 9:19 am

      Childhood memories that will a last time.

      Reply

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